When you're a kid, honesty seems so harmless, mostly because adults perceive/ignore children on big-people terms. When you're older, honesty becomes a burden: All sorts of feelings -- guilt, embarassment, frustration, hopelessnes, etc. -- stem from an inability to blurt out the truth to others; the knowledge or expectation that the truth stimulates conflict; or an internal avoidance of the truth, painful or otherwise. Thus we have politics, Prozac and soap-operas. It's why "The Sopranos" is God's gift to liberal arts professors looking for something to expound on. Families never work out quite the way they're expected to. And nobody is ever completely free of the blame. That's the hardest thing to remember.